How To Be More Talkative In A Group (Group Conversation Skills)


Are you tired of people asking you why you’re
so quiet when you’re in a social gathering? If so, then keep watching. In this video, I’m going to give you my top
tips on how to be more talkative in a group. This is the exact same advice that I give
to our clients in our social skills coaching program. They’ve seen great results with it so make
sure you stick around until the very end. My name is Myke Macapinlac, I help STEM professionals
improve their social confidence. If you’re new to the channel, remember to
subscribe and hit the bell to be notified when I post a new video every single week. Learning how to be more talkative in a group
can be challenging especially if you’re shy or introverted. That being said, let me give you some actionable
tips that you can implement right away. Alright, let’s get into it. Tip #1 Believe in yourself You can have the best stories ever but if
you don’t believe that people will want to hear what you have to say, then you’ll always
hold yourself back in social situations. From my experience as a social skills coach,
most guys who struggle socially tend to beat themselves up mentally. They ruminate about their past failures over
and over again. One of the best ways that I know to raise
your self-esteem is to come up with things that you like about yourself on a daily basis. When you do this long enough, you’ll eventually
start to feel pretty good about who you are. The more you believe in yourself, the more
likely you are to speak up and say what’s on your mind. Tip #2 Listen attentively If you’re like most of our clients in our
social skill program, then you probably tend to be in your head a lot. Remember, it’s hard to be an engaging conversationalist
if you don’t pay attention to what’s happening around you. If you’re trying to figure out how to be more
talkative in a group, the first thing you need to do is to be in the moment. Be present and make sure you actually listen
to understand not just to respond. When you do, you’ll be able to come up with
the right things to say and contribute to the conversation. Tip #3 Ask better questions
To improve the quality of your interactions, avoid asking closed-ended questions which
usually require one-word answers. What you’ll want to do is ask more open-ended
questions instead. These types of questions keep the conversation
going much easier. For example, asking “Do you have plans this
weekend?” can be answered by “yes” or “no.” Instead, you can ask “What do you have going
on this weekend?” An open-ended question encourages the person
you’re speaking with to share more information. This will make it easier for you to add to
the group conversation since you’ll have more things to talk about. Tip #4 Have your stories ready As the saying goes, practice makes perfect. And if you think about it, most people tend
to talk about the same topics over and over again anyway. That being said, take some time to create
interesting ways to talk about different areas of your life like your upbringing, your career,
your interests, and your passions and your travel experiences. Also, if you want your stories to be more
captivating, make sure you include some unique details as well. Engage the senses by talking about what you
saw, what you heard, what you felt, what you smelt and what you tasted. Preparing in advance will help you come up
with stories to share every quickly especially if you’re not a naturally talkative person. Tip #5 Manage your expectations When you do things you enjoy, it’s much easier
to meet like-minded people. That’s why I always tell our clients in our
social skills coaching program to make their social life an extension of their hobbies
and interests. But every now and then, you’ll be in a situation
where you’re around people who you won’t have a lot in common with. The topic they’re talking about isn’t something
you’re familiar with. If that’s the case, the best way to participate
in this group is to just ask questions. People love talking about themselves and what
they know anyway so go ahead and let them. And then, when a topic that you know a lot
about comes up, that’s when you speak up and say something. Personally, I would only share if I genuinely
feel like I can add value to the group conversation. If not, then just listen, keep an open mind
and see if you can learn something new. Tip #6 Practice in smaller settings If the idea of speaking to a lot of people
at once intimidates you then don’t start there. Remember, social confidence is a muscle that
can be developed with enough time and repetition. If you don’t have a lot of experience interacting
with people yet, then renegotiate your expectations. Don’t worry so much about being great at group
conversations for now. Get good at one-on-one interactions first. Gather as much positive reference experience
as you can. Eventually, talking to a lot of people will
be much easier for you. There you have it, I just shared with you
my best tips on how to be more talkative in a group. To sum things up, make sure you believe in
yourself, listen attentively, ask better questions, have your stories ready, and manage your expectations
and practice in smaller settings. If you’re a shy guy who’s technically skilled
and you want to know how to approach and talk to anybody, remember to download your free
social confidence cheat sheet by clicking the link in the description below. If you’re you’re tired of struggling socially
and you want to learn more about our social skills coaching program, book your free consultation
today and let’s connect. The link is in the description below as well. If you like this video, go ahead and hit the
like button, subscribe and share it with someone who you know could benefit from it. And now, let’s turn it to you. Which one of these tips are you going to implement
first? Are you going to work on listening attentively
or are you going to practice in smaller settings? Leave me a comment below and let me know. Alright, that’s it for me for now and I’ll
see you in the next video.

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